Coaching practices for How to Cope with Separation Anxiety in Toddlers

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  • I keep asking the people around me "are you sure it’s fine?" over and over
  • I’ve got all these little rules that keep me okay
  • There’s a window every day
  • I can only handle the scary situation if I’ve got my little crutch
  • The storm has finally passed and my kid is calm again, and I keep wanting to either just move on or fix the situation for them

Practices that may help

  1. Fade reassurance-seeking
    Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  2. Drop the safety behaviors
    Let go of the small avoidances and crutches you use to feel "safe" from anxiety.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  3. Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
    A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  4. Gradually drop safety behaviors
    Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
    The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical
  5. Problem-solve together once the child is calm
    After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
  6. Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
    Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  7. Eliminate safety behaviors
    Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
    Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them
  8. Listen empathically and validate the feeling
    Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
  9. For avoidant: stay present longer before withdrawing
    The withdrawal that protects you from overwhelm drives your partner’s fear -- delay it by 10 percent.
    The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Opposites Attract and Then Struggle
  10. Engage with the present moment
    Once the edge comes off, redirect attention fully into an activity or your surroundings.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical

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