Coaching practices for How to Deal Bullies at Work
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- I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
- There’s one person on my team everyone’s decided is just a complainer, and I keep noticing they’re actually pointing at the thing nobody wants to face
- I think my boss is about to make the wrong call and I’m biting my tongue to keep the peace, then quietly stewing about it after
- In our meetings everyone just nods along and the doubts only come out in private afterward, because being the one who pushes back makes you look like you’re not a team player
- Someone takes a dig at me and I instantly want to either defend myself or fire back, and either way I’ve handed them exactly the reaction they were fishing for and the jabs just keep coming.
Practices that may help
- Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives
Actively surface and protect the dissenting or marginal voices the system wants to silence.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus. - Disagree with your manager constructively
State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Appoint an explicit devil’s advocate role
Give one person the formal job of arguing against the plan — making dissent structural, not personal.
Red Teaming: Stress-Testing Plans Before They Fail - Fogging
Calmly agree with any grain of truth in a criticism without caving or counterattacking.
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical - Broken record: maintaining a position without escalating
Repeat your position calmly and consistently when met with pressure to abandon it.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Take a structured time-out
Exit the provocation situation temporarily with a plan to re-engage — not as avoidance, but as arousal regulation.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - Develop challenger safety — dissent and challenge are welcomed, not punished
Create an environment where questioning decisions, challenging leaders, and dissenting are genuinely safe.
The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
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Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
- How To Handle A Bully At Work
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
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