Coaching practices for Best Way to Handle a Bully at Work
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- I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
- I think my boss is about to make the wrong call and I’m biting my tongue to keep the peace, then quietly stewing about it after
- Someone takes a dig at me and I instantly want to either defend myself or fire back, and either way I’ve handed them exactly the reaction they were fishing for and the jabs just keep coming.
- I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
- Once a fight gets going I can feel I’ve passed the point where anything good comes out of my mouth, but I don’t know how to step away without it looking like I’m storming off or quitting on the person.
Practices that may help
- Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus. - Disagree with your manager constructively
State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Fogging
Calmly agree with any grain of truth in a criticism without caving or counterattacking.
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Take a structured time-out
Exit the provocation situation temporarily with a plan to re-engage — not as avoidance, but as arousal regulation.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives
Actively surface and protect the dissenting or marginal voices the system wants to silence.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Develop challenger safety — dissent and challenge are welcomed, not punished
Create an environment where questioning decisions, challenging leaders, and dissenting are genuinely safe.
The Four Stages of Psychological Safety - Appoint an explicit devil’s advocate role
Give one person the formal job of arguing against the plan — making dissent structural, not personal.
Red Teaming: Stress-Testing Plans Before They Fail
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