Coaching practices for How to Deal with a Co Worker Who Thinks I Stole Her Promotion
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- When the team debriefs and credit gets handed around, I instantly downplay my part
- I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
- Someone hits a snag, brings it to me, I say "leave it with me," and somehow the task I delegated is back on my desk
- I hand work off and somehow it keeps boomeranging back onto my plate
- Something goes well and within minutes I’ve explained it all away
Practices that may help
- Practice owning your contribution in group settings
In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Resist upward (reverse) delegation
Don’t let the task you delegated jump back onto your desk the first time it gets hard.
Effective Delegation, Made Practical - Resist reverse delegation (the "monkey back" problem)
When a report brings you their monkey, don’t take it — send it back with the next step owned.
Delegation Levels, Made Practical - Practice competence re-attribution
After each success, write explicitly which of your skills, decisions, or efforts contributed — before the luck explanation settles in.
Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical - Say it out loud to someone safe
Disclose the imposter feeling to a trusted peer or mentor to break its secrecy.
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical - Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Practice the abundance reframe
Remind yourself that others’ success does not diminish the supply available to you.
The Comparison Trap - Give recognition generously and specifically
Call out others’ contributions publicly, specifically, and without claiming credit for yourself.
Give and Take: The Giver Advantage - Normalize impostor feelings through selective disclosure
Tell one trusted peer that you sometimes feel like a fraud — you will almost always find the feeling is mutual.
Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How To Deal With The Rumours Of My Boss Stealing Money
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Send proactive, brief status updates
- Should I Report This Workplace Thievery
When a report brings you their monkey, don’t take it — send it back with the next step owned.
Resist reverse delegation (the "monkey back" problem)
- Clance Imposter Phenomenon
Impostor phenomenon — the persistent belief that one’s success is undeserved and will soon be “exposed” — is not a character flaw but a cognitive pattern common among high achievers, first documented by Clance and Imes in 1978. It responds to evidence-gathering, cognitive restructuring, and normalization, though change is gradual rather than immediate.
- Coworker Is Intimidating Me By Taking Items From Teammates Desks And Putting Them On Mine
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
- Coworker Submitted My Code As His Own
In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
Practice owning your contribution in group settings
- Credit Deflection Impostor Syndrome
In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
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