Coaching practices for How to Deal with the Rumours of My Boss Stealing Money

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• My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
• I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder
• I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
• I carry the I’m-a-fraud feeling completely in secret because saying it out loud feels like it would confirm it
• I think my boss is about to make the wrong call and I’m biting my tongue to keep the peace, then quietly stewing about it after

Practices that may help

1. Send proactive, brief status updates
   Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
2. Understand the constraints your manager operates under
   Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
3. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
   Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
4. Say it out loud to someone safe
   Disclose the imposter feeling to a trusted peer or mentor to break its secrecy.
   Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical
5. Disagree with your manager constructively
   State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
6. Adapt to your manager’s communication style
   Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
7. Recognize and counter money avoidance patterns
   Money avoidance — "money is bad," "rich people are greedy" — leads to self-sabotage disguised as virtue.
   Money Scripts, Made Practical
8. Resist reverse delegation (the "monkey back" problem)
   When a report brings you their monkey, don’t take it — send it back with the next step owned.
   Delegation Levels, Made Practical
9. Practice owning your contribution in group settings
   In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
10. Normalize impostor feelings through selective disclosure
    Tell one trusted peer that you sometimes feel like a fraud — you will almost always find the feeling is mutual.
    Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical

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