Coaching practices for How to Deal with Death of a Loved One Psychologically

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• I know in my head that they’re gone, but it still hasn’t landed
• They handled the money, or the cooking, or were just the person I leaned on
• I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
• The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
• I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking

Practices that may help

1. Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
   Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
2. Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
   Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
3. Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
   Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
4. Havening to soften acute grief activation
   Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
5. Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
   Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
6. Move from terror management to mortality acceptance
   Develop a genuinely held relationship with your finitude rather than suppressing or managing it.
   Terror Management Theory, Made Practical
7. Map the assumptive world the loss disrupted
   Identify which of your core beliefs about life, self, and the future the loss has challenged.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
8. Speak or write to the person directly
   Address the deceased in letters, journal entries, or internal dialogue as a form of active continuing connection.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
9. Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
   Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
10. Find a community that recognises your specific loss
    Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
    Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical

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