Coaching practices for How to Deal with Emotional Pain After a Breakup
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- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- I keep circling the same painful thing for hours and every loop makes it worse
- There was one moment when I needed them most
- After we fight we just let it sit for days with neither of us reaching out, and the hurt quietly piles up until I start reading even neutral things they do as another little jab
- I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"
Practices that may help
- Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical - Repair an attachment injury
Specific relationship betrayals -- moments when you were not there -- need a specific repair, not just time.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair - Repair quickly and thoroughly
Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
Secure-Functioning Relationships - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Common humanity: remember you are not alone
Say to yourself: "Suffering is a part of life — I am not alone in this."
The Self-Compassion Break - R — Recall the hurt
Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model - Acknowledge: name what is hard
Place a hand on your heart and say, "This is a moment of suffering."
The Self-Compassion Break - Mindful awareness of suffering
Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
Self-Compassion, Made Practical - Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
Related concerns
- How Do I Overcome Emotional Pain
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
- How To Cope With Emotional Pain
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
- How To Deal With Emotional Pain Alone
Say to yourself: "Suffering is a part of life — I am not alone in this."
Common humanity: remember you are not alone
- How To Deal With Emotional Pain In A Relationship
Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
Repair quickly and thoroughly
- How To Deal With Overwhelming Emotional Pain
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
- How To Get Through Emotional Pain
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
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