Coaching practices for How to Deal with Friend Coworker Whom I Suspect is Taking Advantage of Wfh

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
• Guarding my focus time makes me feel guilty and a little unreachable, like I’m leaving people stranded
• I’ve tried the buddy thing but the person I picked just says “no worries, next time” whenever I flake
• If a friend brought me this exact dilemma I’d know in two seconds what they should do, but stuck inside my own version I just go in circles
• If a friend told me they’d blown off this exact thing I’d be gentle and kind to them in a heartbeat, yet to myself I’m brutal

Practices that may help

1. Send proactive, brief status updates
   Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
2. Offer office hours to concentrate collaboration
   Designate one or two open windows per day when collaborators can reach you freely, then protect everything else.
   Maker vs Manager Schedule
3. Choose a partner who will actually hold the line
   Pick someone invested enough to ask hard questions, not a friend who will let it slide.
   Accountability Partners
4. Give yourself advice as if advising a close friend
   Describe your problem as if a close friend brought it to you — then write the advice you would give them.
   Self-Distancing Journaling
5. Extend the compassion you would give a friend to yourself
   Ask what you would say to a capable friend who had delayed on the same task — then say that.
   Self-Forgiveness and Procrastination
6. Assess the current quality of your leader-member relationship
   Honestly diagnose where you stand in the relationship before trying to improve it.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
7. Communicate your theme-day structure to collaborators
   Let colleagues know which days are off-limits for meetings so the structure is sustainable, not secret.
   Theme Days, Made Practical
8. Use a body double for low-initiation tasks
   Work in the physical or virtual presence of another person to borrow their initiation momentum.
   Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem
9. Understand the constraints your manager operates under
   Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
10. Set explicit work-technology boundaries to stop techno-invasion
    Define the hours during which work technology cannot enter your personal time — and hold the boundary.
    Technostress: What It Is and How to Manage It

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