Coaching practices for How to Define Success Upfront

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• I keep saying I want to be "successful" or to "do better," but when I try to pin down what I actually mean by it, I realize I’ve never defined it
• We technically agreed on the goal, but I can already tell the other side isn’t bought in and won’t actually follow through
• I’m busy every single day and somehow none of it adds up to anything
• After spending an hour imagining all the ways this could fail, I’ve talked myself right out of even starting
• My standard is all-or-nothing

Practices that may help

1. Demand definitions before discussion
   Before arguing or planning, force a precise definition of the key terms.
   The Socratic Method, Made Practical
2. Make them solve the implementation for you
   Ask "What does success look like?" and "How do we get there?" to make the other side do the planning.
   Calibrated Questions, Made Practical
3. Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind
   Define what success looks like before you act, guided by a personal mission.
   The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Made Practical
4. Pair the pre-mortem with a clear success vision
   Balance failure analysis with an equally concrete picture of what success requires.
   The Pre-Mortem: Imagine It Already Failed
5. Redefine what counts as a win
   Explicitly count showing up — even imperfectly — as a win, not only full performance.
   Celebrating Small Wins
6. Define your own "enough" proactively
   Name in advance what the sufficient version of a goal looks like, before ambition moves the target.
   The Mindset of Enough: Contentment Without Complacency
7. State the goal, then invert it
   Ask "what would guarantee I fail at this?" before asking how to succeed.
   Inversion: Solve Problems Backward
8. Define the result before listing tasks
   Before planning any action, write a single clear statement of the specific outcome you want.
   Tony Robbins’ Rapid Planning Method (RPM), Made Practical
9. Calibrate stretch with a target score
   Aim where hitting ~70% is a strong result, so comfort means you aimed too low.
   OKRs for People, Not Just Companies
10. Run a pre-mortem to interrupt forward narrative construction
    Before committing to a plan, imagine it failed completely — then generate the most plausible story of why.
    The Narrative Fallacy: Why We Can’t Stop Making Stories

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