Coaching practices for How to Fix My Dogs Separation Anxiety

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• I’ve got all these little rules that keep me okay
• I keep asking the people around me "are you sure it’s fine?" over and over
• Even once the worst of it passes, I can’t get back into the room
• The second they go quiet or take too long to reply, something in me lights up and I can’t sit still
• When my partner comes to me upset I jump straight into fixing it and explaining what they should do, and somehow that makes them more upset

Practices that may help

1. Drop the safety behaviors
   Let go of the small avoidances and crutches you use to feel "safe" from anxiety.
   The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
2. Fade reassurance-seeking
   Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
   Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
3. Engage with the present moment
   Once the edge comes off, redirect attention fully into an activity or your surroundings.
   The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
4. Regulate the anxious protest response
   For anxious activation, soothe the alarm before acting on the urge to pursue or test.
   Attachment Theory, Made Usable
5. Be a source of relief, not reactivation
   When your partner is distressed, your first job is to reduce their threat response, not solve the problem.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
6. Run the full 5-4-3-2-1 sequence
   Work through all five senses in order: 5 things seen, 4 heard, 3 touched, 2 smelled, 1 tasted.
   The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique
7. Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after
   Start the technique at the first sign of anxiety — not once the wave is overwhelming.
   The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique
8. Eliminate safety behaviors
   Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
   Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them
9. For anxious: down-regulate before pursuing
   The anxious pursuit, when driven by panic, always makes things worse -- soothe first, then reach.
   The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Opposites Attract and Then Struggle
10. Gradually drop safety behaviors
    Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
    The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical

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