Coaching practices for How to Get Over Embarrassing Work Crush

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• I shrink my life down to avoid any chance of looking foolish
• After an awkward moment I’m convinced people will be replaying it about me for weeks
• When I drop something or say the wrong name I freeze and pray nobody saw, but the frozen panic on my face makes it ten times more obvious
• I’m new on this team and tempted to lead with how relatable and human I am, but nobody’s seen me actually deliver yet
• I keep replaying the cringe moment from the inside

Practices that may help

1. Shame-attacking exercises
   Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
   Unconditional Self-Acceptance
2. Run the "did it matter?" check 24 hours later
   Before assuming a social blunder is remembered, wait a day and ask if it was ever mentioned.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
3. Normalize the blunder with a brief, light acknowledgment
   Naming a slip lightly and moving on defuses it faster than hoping no one noticed.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
4. Build a credibility foundation before showing vulnerability
   The pratfall effect only works if people already perceive you as competent — so earn that first.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
5. Write the observer’s account of the event
   Write a third-person account of what an average observer actually saw — not what you felt.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
6. Use graduated social exposure
   Start with low-stakes social interactions and systematically increase difficulty.
   Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
7. Build a personal discomfort gradient
   Rank your avoidances from mildly uncomfortable to overwhelming, then start at the bottom.
   Embracing Discomfort: Turning Resistance Into Growth
8. ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
   Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
   Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
9. Name frustrations without shame
   Frustrations are not weaknesses — they’re a mismatch signal that the team can act on.
   The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni)
10. Use a small ask to repair a strained relationship
    In a cool or conflicted relationship, asking for a small favor can reset the dynamic more effectively than doing one.
    The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical

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