Coaching practices for How to Get Over Humiliation at Work

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• I shrink my life down to avoid any chance of looking foolish
• I come across as so buttoned-up and serious that people stay a little stiff around me, and I want to lighten it by laughing at myself
• When the team debriefs and credit gets handed around, I instantly downplay my part
• After an awkward moment I’m convinced people will be replaying it about me for weeks
• I’m new on this team and tempted to lead with how relatable and human I am, but nobody’s seen me actually deliver yet

Practices that may help

1. Shame-attacking exercises
   Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
   Unconditional Self-Acceptance
2. Use self-deprecating humor — selectively
   Laughing at yourself in a low-stakes moment signals security and reduces social distance.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
3. Practice owning your contribution in group settings
   In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
4. Run the "did it matter?" check 24 hours later
   Before assuming a social blunder is remembered, wait a day and ask if it was ever mentioned.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
5. Build a credibility foundation before showing vulnerability
   The pratfall effect only works if people already perceive you as competent — so earn that first.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
6. Normalize impostor feelings through selective disclosure
   Tell one trusted peer that you sometimes feel like a fraud — you will almost always find the feeling is mutual.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
7. Normalize the blunder with a brief, light acknowledgment
   Naming a slip lightly and moving on defuses it faster than hoping no one noticed.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
8. Share shame with someone safe
   Naming shame to a person who responds with empathy is the single most effective shame antidote Brown identified.
   Shame Resilience, Made Practical
9. Apply three good things to work contexts specifically
   Use the exercise to rewire what you notice about your work day — contribution, competence, and collaboration.
   Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
10. Invoke common humanity in a moment of shame
    When you feel like a uniquely pathetic failure, remind yourself this is shared human experience.
    Working With Your Inner Critic

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