Coaching practices for How to Get Over Retroactive Jealousy of a Romantic Partner

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• When I’m frustrated with my partner I genuinely struggle to remember why we’re even together
• I keep responding to who my partner was a couple of years ago instead of who they are now
• My partner has become so much a part of the furniture of my life that I barely register them anymore, and I catch myself being short or distracted
• I look at my partner and barely see them anymore
• Nothing is technically wrong, but I’ve stopped noticing the good things about my partner and the small resentments just keep stacking up quietly

Practices that may help

1. Actively maintain memory of your relationship’s positive history
   PSO is partly built on a rich, accessible memory of good times — keep it alive.
   Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships
2. Map your partner's current inner world
   Know your partner's present worries, stresses, and joys -- not just who they were when you met.
   Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World
3. Imagine the absence of a key relationship
   Vividly imagine your life without a person you love — specifically, in detail, what would be missing.
   Negative Visualization for Gratitude: The Stoic Path to Appreciation
4. The erotic gaze: seeing your partner freshly
   Deliberately practice seeing your partner as a stranger might — with curiosity, not familiarity.
   Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships
5. Build a culture of genuine appreciation as a horsemen antidote
   Daily authentic appreciation is the structural counter to contempt -- and it has to precede the conflict.
   The Four Horsemen: Gottman's Warning Signs of Relationship Breakdown
6. Ask genuine questions about your partner’s inner world
   Keep updating your mental model of who your partner actually is right now.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
7. Behavioral confirmation audit: how are you treating your partner?
   Regularly examine whether your daily behavior toward your partner confirms their ideal self or their non-ideal self.
   The Michelangelo Phenomenon: How Partners Sculpt Each Other
8. Give yourself permission to feel
   Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
9. Avoiding anti-ideal confirmation: the sculpting that harms
   Identify the ways you routinely treat your partner as their non-ideal (worst) self, and stop.
   The Michelangelo Phenomenon: How Partners Sculpt Each Other
10. Developing genuine curiosity about your partner’s ideal self
    Invest in knowing who your partner wants to become — not who they were or who you want them to be.
    The Michelangelo Phenomenon: How Partners Sculpt Each Other

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