Coaching practices for How to Grieve Your Younger Self Processing Loss at Midlife
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
- Something I built my life around has ended
- I deal with my grief by doing and fixing rather than weeping, and everyone keeps treating that as cold or in denial
- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- I keep telling myself I shouldn’t be this wrecked when other people have lost so much more
Practices that may help
- Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Validate your own grief without waiting for external permission
Give yourself the recognition that society has withheld — your loss is real because it matters to you.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Engage generativity — the natural work of midlife and later seasons
Midlife and later seasons are calling for contribution, mentorship, and transmission — not just personal achievement.
Seasons of Life - Identify how cultural norms shape your grief
Examine whether cultural scripts about how long and how much to grieve are shaping your experience.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
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Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
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