Coaching practices for Grief Style Intuitive Instrumental
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I deal with my grief by doing and fixing rather than weeping, and everyone keeps treating that as cold or in denial
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- I keep swinging between drowning in the raw grief and trying to make sense of it, and I think I lean too hard on the sense-making because feeling it is unbearable
- Something I built my life around has ended
- It’s been a few months and everyone around me clearly expects me to be over it by now, and I’ve half-swallowed that timeline myself
Practices that may help
- Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Oscillate between grief and sense-making
Allow periods of pure grief alongside periods of meaning construction — both are necessary.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Identify how cultural norms shape your grief
Examine whether cultural scripts about how long and how much to grieve are shaping your experience.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Regulate the oscillation consciously
If you are spending too long in one orientation, deliberately shift to the other.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Grief Meaning Oscillation
If you are spending too long in one orientation, deliberately shift to the other.
Regulate the oscillation consciously
- Anicca And Grief
When grieving a loss, ground the experience in the insight that what ended was always impermanent — and that grief itself is impermanent.
Integrating loss through the lens of anicca
- Cognitive Grief Processing
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
- Grief Window Technique
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Create a deliberate grief window
- How To Grieve Your Younger Self
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
- Oscillation In Grief
If you are spending too long in one orientation, deliberately shift to the other.
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