Coaching practices for How to Handle Negative Campaign About Me by a Colleague
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- I have to make an ask that I know is going to land as self-serving or unfair, and I’m dreading the moment they think it
- I’m dreading this talk because I know they’re already thinking the worst of me
- I’m walking into this knowing exactly what they’re probably thinking about me
- Someone takes a dig at me and I instantly want to either defend myself or fire back, and either way I’ve handed them exactly the reaction they were fishing for and the jabs just keep coming.
- When I’m upset I go straight for who they are
Practices that may help
- Run an accusation audit before difficult asks
Name the worst things the other person might think about you or your request — before they do.
Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical - The accusation audit
Pre-empt their worst objections by saying them out loud before they can.
Tactical Empathy - The accusation audit
Say the worst thing they might be thinking about you — out loud, first — to defuse it.
Never Split the Difference, In Practice - Fogging
Calmly agree with any grain of truth in a criticism without caving or counterattacking.
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical - Complain about the specific situation, not the person’s character
Target the behavior or situation, never the person’s character or worth.
The Soft Startup: How You Begin a Difficult Conversation Determines How It Ends - Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Invite an adversarial collaborator
Find someone whose genuine prior is the opposite of yours, and work together on the same evidence.
Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See - Describe behavior, not character
Say what the person did — actions, words — not what that says about who they are.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Surface the verification motive
Name the moments you discount positive feedback, then ask what self-view you are protecting.
Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical - Track what your partner does right, not just wrong
Deliberately notice and record positive partner behaviors to counteract negativity bias.
The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
Related concerns
- When Tactical Empathy The Accusation Audit
Pre-empt their worst objections by saying them out loud before they can.
The accusation audit
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Effective correction is fast, focuses on the specific behavior, and ends with reaffirmation of the person’s value.
One-minute reprimands: immediate, specific, behavior-not-person
- How Do I Respond To Racist Remarks From A Coworker
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
- How To Constructively Address Someone Yelling At You In The Workplace
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
- How To Tactfully Deal With Friend Who Claims That I Am In His Team
In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
Practice owning your contribution in group settings
- What To Do With A Colleague Who Is Constantly Criticising My Habits And Traits
Criticism puts people on the defensive and rarely produces lasting change.
Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain
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