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- My team feels off and I keep reacting to each flare-up as its own thing, but I can’t actually say what phase we’re in
- I honestly can’t tell where I am in my own life right now
- There are things I treat as plain facts about myself and the world, and I’m starting to suspect some of them are just views I’ve never questioned
- I follow a set of unwritten rules in my roles so automatically I’ve never asked if they’re even mine, and I’m so defined by what others expect of me that I can’t tell where their expectations end and I begin.
- I keep throwing action plans and systems at this change and getting nowhere, and I’m starting to suspect I jumped straight to "do it" when I haven’t even really decided yet
Practices that may help
- Diagnose which stage your team is in
Name the stage you’re in before you pick a leadership response.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - Identify your current season honestly
Name the season you are actually in — not the one you want to be in or the one others expect.
Seasons of Life - Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
Robert Kegan’s subject-object theory holds that adult development is a series of shifts in what you are "subject to" (run by, unable to see) versus what you can hold as "object" (observe and reflect on). Each developmental order expands what you can see about yourself and others, and the practices that support these transitions — reflective inquiry, perspective-taking, immunity mapping — have clinical grounding, though the stage theory itself is based primarily on observational and interview research. - Conduct a subject-object audit
Identify what is currently running you without your awareness versus what you can observe and question.
Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical - Practice third-order perspective-taking
Step outside your relationships and social roles to see them as one perspective rather than as your identity.
Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical - Identify your current stage before choosing a strategy
Diagnose where you actually are in the change cycle before deciding what to do.
The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical - Identify where your Kolb cycle breaks down
Know which of the four stages you consistently skip — that’s where your learning stops.
Structured Reflection: Kolb’s Learning Cycle in Practice - The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
The Transtheoretical Model (TTM), developed by Prochaska and DiClemente, proposes that behavior change moves through five stages — precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance — and that strategies effective in one stage often backfire in another. The staging framework is well-validated; the prescriptive matching of "stage-tailored" interventions shows promising but mixed results in trials. - Identify your current rung
Before trying to change your state, learn to read which of the three rungs you’re on right now.
The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States - Complete the full cycle — do not skip stages
Identify which stage you habitually skip and repair it deliberately.
Kolb’s Experiential Learning Cycle: Learning by Doing and Reflecting
Related concerns
- Kegan Stages
Robert Kegan’s subject-object theory holds that adult development is a series of shifts in what you are "subject to" (run by, unable to see) versus what you can hold as "object" (observe and reflect on). Each developmental order expands what you can see about yourself and others, and the practices that support these transitions — reflective inquiry, perspective-taking, immunity mapping — have clinical grounding, though the stage theory itself is based primarily on observational and interview research.
- What Is The Difference Between Kegans And Loevinger Developmental Stages
Robert Kegan’s subject-object theory holds that adult development is a series of shifts in what you are "subject to" (run by, unable to see) versus what you can hold as "object" (observe and reflect on). Each developmental order expands what you can see about yourself and others, and the practices that support these transitions — reflective inquiry, perspective-taking, immunity mapping — have clinical grounding, though the stage theory itself is based primarily on observational and interview research.
- Adult Development Levinson
The seasons-of-life framework treats adult development as a sequence of distinct phases — each with its own natural demands, appropriate priorities, and transition challenges. Drawing on developmental psychology (Levinson, Erikson, Sheehy) and practical life-design work, it argues that straining against your current season (trying to do spring work in autumn, or refusing to accept a transition) produces more distress than the season itself.
- Can You Skip Stages Spiral Dynamics Development
Recognize when you’re bypassing a developmental level that still has unresolved challenges.
Avoid level-jumping: build through each stage rather than skipping
- Developmental Psychology Adults
Robert Kegan’s subject-object theory holds that adult development is a series of shifts in what you are "subject to" (run by, unable to see) versus what you can hold as "object" (observe and reflect on). Each developmental order expands what you can see about yourself and others, and the practices that support these transitions — reflective inquiry, perspective-taking, immunity mapping — have clinical grounding, though the stage theory itself is based primarily on observational and interview research.
- How Long Does It Take To Move Through Developmental Stages
Name the season you are actually in — not the one you want to be in or the one others expect.
Identify your current season honestly
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