Coaching practices for How to Move on From Narcissistic Relationship

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• After we fight we just let it sit for days with neither of us reaching out, and the hurt quietly piles up until I start reading even neutral things they do as another little jab
• I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
• People keep telling me I need to let them go and move on, and everything in me refuses
• Things with my manager have gone cold and transactional, and we’re both just avoiding it and quietly resenting each other
• Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go

Practices that may help

1. Repair quickly and thoroughly
   Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
2. R — Recall the hurt
   Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
3. Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
   Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
4. Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
   Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
5. Treating grief as a form of gratitude
   When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
   Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things
6. Move toward a secure baseline -- in yourself first
   Security is a state you can practice moving toward, regardless of which partner moves first.
   The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Opposites Attract and Then Struggle
7. Rekindling after a drift: returning to aliveness
   Recognize a drift in erotic connection as normal — and name it as the beginning of a renewal, not a failure.
   Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships
8. Reconstruct your identity post-loss
   Actively develop the new self that emerges when a core relationship or role is gone.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
9. Shift from one-person to two-person psychology
   Stop managing your distress alone and start managing it together.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
10. Notice and soften avoidant deactivation
    For avoidant patterns, catch the urge to withdraw and stay engaged a little longer.
    Attachment Theory, Made Usable

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