Coaching practices for How to Name an Obstacle in a Story

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  • Every time I name what went wrong it comes across as pointing a finger at a person or a team in the room, and the whole thing turns defensive
  • I always blame the lack of time or the circumstances, but honestly something in me keeps stopping me
  • Something blew up my plans and I’ve just been stewing in how unfair it is
  • The moment something goes wrong my head goes straight to "this is a disaster, it’s ruined"
  • Something has blocked the path I was set on and my whole reaction is frustration and trying to force my original plan through it

Practices that may help

  1. Name the antagonist: what is the obstacle, not who
    Every compelling story has something working against the protagonist — name the force, not a person.
    Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical
  2. Obstacle — find the inner obstacle in your way
    Identify the personal, internal block that actually stops you — a habit, feeling, or thought.
    WOOP: Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan
  3. Find the advantage inside the obstacle
    Ask what this obstacle makes possible that nothing else would — the way through is often in it.
    The Obstacle Is the Way, in Practice
  4. Control your perception of the obstacle
    The obstacle isn’t the problem — your interpretation of it is the first thing you can change.
    The Obstacle Is the Way, in Practice
  5. Treat each obstacle as an opportunity for the discipline of action
    When something blocks your intended action, ask what virtuous response the obstacle itself calls for.
    The Stoic Discipline of Action
  6. Identify the main internal obstacle that stands between you and the wish
    Ask honestly: what is the primary thing in me — not outside me — that is most likely to block this wish?
    Mental Contrasting and WOOP
  7. Reframe the obstacle as the material you work with
    Ask not "why did this happen to me?" but "what does this make possible or necessary?"
    Amor Fati: Loving What Happens
  8. Plan — make an if-then plan for the obstacle
    Pre-decide your response: "If [obstacle], then I will [effective action]."
    WOOP: Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan
  9. Write an if–then plan for your biggest obstacle
    "If [obstacle occurs], then I will [specific response]" — pre-deciding removes the obstacle’s power.
    If–Then Planning, Made Practical
  10. Precise hindrance identification before applying antidotes
    Before doing anything about a meditation obstacle, name which of the five hindrances is actually present.
    The Five Hindrances: Diagnosing and Working with Meditation Obstacles

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