Coaching practices for How to Overcome Resistance to Change
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I genuinely want to make this change and I keep not doing it, and it’s not laziness
- Every time I set out to change something, I aim big and then just freeze
- I keep selling this change as a clear win and can’t understand why people are dragging their feet
- I keep trying to change this completely on my own, in secret, and the moment life gets stressful the old way snaps right back and I quietly decide I’m just someone who can’t change
- When I push my team on the hard stuff they either shut down and start blaming each other or just nod and carry on as before
Practices that may help
- Map your immunity to change
Find the hidden competing commitments that are holding a desired change in place.
Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical - Embracing Discomfort: Turning Resistance Into Growth
Embracing discomfort means deliberately moving toward difficult feelings and challenging situations rather than away from them — not because suffering is good, but because avoidance is the primary mechanism that keeps people stuck. Graded approaches, reappraisal, and acceptance-based methods all show meaningful effects; the key is distinguishing productive discomfort from unsustainable strain. - Shrink the step below the fear threshold
Make the change so small it provokes no resistance — then it actually gets done.
Kaizen: Change by Tiny Steps - Name the loss the adaptive challenge requires
Explicitly acknowledge what people must give up — not just what they will gain.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Use belief and community to make change stick
A supportive group and a belief that change is possible help new habits survive stress.
The Power of Habit, Made Practical - Regulate the level of distress in the system
Keep productive pressure high enough to motivate change but low enough to prevent shutdown.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Track your temptation-to-confidence ratio
Confidence in your ability to resist temptation must outpace the pull of the old behavior.
The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical - Radical acceptance
Stop fighting the reality you cannot change right now — acceptance ends the suffering that resistance adds.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical - Hold steady when the system pushes back
Expect displacement, scapegoating, and pressure to return to the old equilibrium — and stay the course.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Identify your current stage before choosing a strategy
Diagnose where you actually are in the change cycle before deciding what to do.
The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Change Management Resistance
Keep productive pressure high enough to motivate change but low enough to prevent shutdown.
Regulate the level of distress in the system
- How To Overcome Resistance To Change In The Workplace
Keep productive pressure high enough to motivate change but low enough to prevent shutdown.
- How To Reduce Resistance To Change
Make the change so small it provokes no resistance — then it actually gets done.
Shrink the step below the fear threshold
- Why Do People Resist Change
Find the hidden competing commitments that are holding a desired change in place.
Map your immunity to change
- Adaptive Leadership After A Loss
Keep productive pressure high enough to motivate change but low enough to prevent shutdown.
- Adaptive Leadership During A Big Change
Adaptive leadership, developed by Ron Heifetz and Marty Linsky at Harvard, distinguishes between technical problems (solvable with existing expertise) and adaptive challenges (requiring people to change their values, beliefs, or habits). The core skill is resisting the pull to apply technical fixes to adaptive problems — and instead helping people do the hard work of change themselves.
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