Coaching practices for How to React Professionally When a Colleague Comes to Work with a Black Eye
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- Someone just came to me with a mistake and I felt my face tighten before I said a word
- Something just blew up and I can feel the whole team watching how I take it
- Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong
- My partner told me something they were excited about and I totally brushed it off, and now I feel bad about it
- When I drop something or say the wrong name I freeze and pray nobody saw, but the frozen panic on my face makes it ten times more obvious
Practices that may help
- Respond non-punitively to mistakes
When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Respond productively to failure and bad news
How you react in the first thirty seconds after a mistake either banks or burns safety.
Psychological Safety, Made Practical - Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Repair a poor response
When you respond badly to good news, circle back and give the engaged response you missed.
Active-Constructive Responding, Made Practical - Normalize the blunder with a brief, light acknowledgment
Naming a slip lightly and moving on defuses it faster than hoping no one noticed.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Ice pack or cold pack applied to the face
Use a bag of frozen vegetables or ice pack pressed to your forehead, eyes, and cheeks as a portable dive reflex trigger.
The Dive Reflex, Made Practical - Respond immediately and visibly to safety violations
When safety is violated — a person is mocked, shut down, or punished for dissent — address it in the moment.
The Four Stages of Psychological Safety - Lead with your eyes — use the face as a regulator
Make eye contact and use your face consciously to signal safety before words.
Secure-Functioning Relationships - Downward arrow for interpreting others’ behavior
Use the arrow technique to identify the core belief driving your worst-case interpretation of what someone did.
The Downward Arrow: Uncovering the Core Beliefs Behind Distress - Mirror the emotional register before problem-solving
Name or match the other person’s emotional state before offering analysis or advice.
Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical
Related concerns
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Use the arrow technique to identify the core belief driving your worst-case interpretation of what someone did.
Downward arrow for interpreting others’ behavior
- Inappropriate Touching By A Colleague
When safety is violated — a person is mocked, shut down, or punished for dissent — address it in the moment.
Respond immediately and visibly to safety violations
- How To Handle Workplace Sexual Harassment
When safety is violated — a person is mocked, shut down, or punished for dissent — address it in the moment.
- When Psychological Safety Teams Non Punitive Response To Mistakes
When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
Respond non-punitively to mistakes
- Why Would Hr Think Its Inappropriate That I Visited A Coworker In The Hospital
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
- A Coworker Is Spreading Rumours That Another Coworker Is A Paedophile
Tell one trusted peer that you sometimes feel like a fraud — you will almost always find the feeling is mutual.
Normalize impostor feelings through selective disclosure
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