Coaching practices for How to Soothe Yourself

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  • I’m too wound up to think my way calm
  • I’m too wound up to reason my way calm
  • The upset is sitting in my body, not my thoughts
  • I’m too wound up to think or talk my way calmer, and there’s nothing to fix right now
  • When I’m upset I have no idea how to actually comfort myself

Practices that may help

  1. Self-Soothing, Made Practical
    Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research.
  2. Five-senses self-soothe
    Deliberately engage each sense with something genuinely comforting to redirect attention and activate the soothing system.
    Self-Soothing, Made Practical
  3. Self-soothe through the five senses
    Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch while the crisis peaks.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  4. Physical self-soothing
    Use touch, warmth, rocking, or breath to directly calm the nervous system.
    Self-Soothing, Made Practical
  5. Self-soothe with the five senses
    Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch to ride out distress.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
  6. Supportive touch
    Use a gentle physical gesture — a hand on the heart — to trigger the body’s soothing response.
    Self-Compassion, Made Practical
  7. Warm self-talk
    Speak to yourself in distress the way you would speak to a struggling friend — warmly, honestly, and without blame.
    Self-Soothing, Made Practical
  8. Distinguish soothing from numbing
    Know the difference between self-soothing (active, present) and numbing (passive escape) — both reduce distress but in opposite directions.
    Self-Soothing, Made Practical
  9. Soothe through connection
    Reach for a regulated person — a phone call, a physical presence — when you cannot self-regulate alone.
    Self-Soothing, Made Practical
  10. Build a personal soothe menu
    Know in advance — not when distressed — which specific soothing strategies actually work for you.
    Self-Soothing, Made Practical

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