Coaching practices for How to Stop Feeling Nervous

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• Right before the big moment I’m wired and shaking and I keep telling myself to calm down and relax, which never works and just makes me more frantic that I can’t
• I try to white-knuckle through it by distracting myself or looking away from what my body’s doing, but the dread of the racing heart never actually gets disproven that way
• I’m about to walk in and my heart is pounding, hands cold, mind racing
• Every time I face the hard thing I get so wound up beforehand that I’m half-shot before I even start, and I’ve got nothing steady to hold onto going in or coming out
• Right before I walk into the presentation I’m jittery and small, and I want a quiet minute on my own to physically settle into feeling steady and grounded, so all the prep I did actually shows up instead of getting swallowed by nerves.

Practices that may help

1. Reappraise anxiety as excitement before high-stakes performance
   Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is the same, the performance effect is not.
   Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical
2. Use somatic tracking instead of distraction
   Observe sensations with neutral curiosity rather than distracting from them — the curiosity interrupts the threat appraisal.
   Panic Surfing
3. Havening to clear pre-performance anxiety
   Run a short havening sequence before a high-stakes event to lower physiological anxiety.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
4. Anchor the growth zone with a comfort ritual
   Pair stretch activities with a brief comfort ritual before and after to keep the nervous system regulated.
   The Comfort Zone Model: How to Grow Without Burning Out
5. Set your posture before high-stakes moments
   Take a private moment to settle into a confident posture before a presentation or hard talk.
   Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
6. Learn deep relaxation as the counter-stimulus
   Train a reliable relaxation response that will compete with and inhibit fear.
   Counter-Conditioning and Systematic Desensitization
7. Standardize the duration of your routine
   Fix the length of your pre-performance sequence so timing does not become a pressure variable.
   Pre-Performance Routines, Made Practical
8. Interoceptive awareness
   Practice noticing and naming body sensations neutrally, so they stop reading as alarms.
   The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical
9. Create a pre-performance ritual that includes posture
   A consistent pre-performance ritual — including posture — reduces anxiety and improves performance more reliably than any single element.
   Power Posing Revisited
10. Deliberately enter low-stakes discomfort
    Regularly choose small situations that trigger the target anxiety so the nervous system learns it is survivable.
    The Confidence–Competence Loop

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