Coaching practices for How to Stop Myself From Overthinking and Overanalysing Everything I Do and Everything People Might Think About Me

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• I’m worn out from constantly managing how I come across, replaying what people might think of me
• The whole time someone’s talking to me I’m watching myself from the outside
• In any conversation I’m so busy watching myself
• The second I stumble over a word or trip on a step, my whole body floods with the certainty that the entire room clocked it and is still thinking about it
• My mind never stops — one worry leads to the next leads to the next — and I chase every single one down, analyzing and untangling it, so there’s never a moment where a thought just arrives and passes without me grabbing onto it.

Practices that may help

1. Release the need for approval
   Let people have their opinions of you — their judgment is theirs to hold, not yours to fix.
   The Let Them Theory, Made Practical
2. Shift attention from self to situation
   Redirect your attention from monitoring yourself to genuinely engaging with the other person.
   Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
3. Shift attention outward during social situations
   Direct your focus to what the other person is saying and feeling, not to how you appear.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
4. Actively update your estimate of how much others notice
   When you assume everyone saw your blunder, consciously cut the estimate in half.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
5. Leaves on a stream visualization
   Imagine each thought as a leaf floating by on a stream — you watch it pass without grabbing it.
   Defusion from Anxious Thoughts
6. Identify what triggers rumination and what it promises
   Map the cues, perceived benefits, and costs of your personal rumination pattern.
   Rumination-Focused CBT, Made Practical
7. The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
   The spotlight effect is the well-documented tendency to overestimate how much other people notice our appearance, mistakes, and actions — because we are the center of our own attention, we assume we are the center of theirs. Reducing this bias requires deliberately updating the estimate of how distracted, self-occupied, and inattentive others actually are.
8. Recall how little you notice others
   Inventory how often you notice strangers’ flaws — then apply that rate to yourself.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
9. Write the observer’s account of the event
   Write a third-person account of what an average observer actually saw — not what you felt.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
10. Run the "did it matter?" check 24 hours later
    Before assuming a social blunder is remembered, wait a day and ask if it was ever mentioned.
    The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching

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