Coaching practices for How to Stop Numbing Feelings
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- The second something gets uncomfortable I reach for the phone or the wine or just more to do, and lately I’ve noticed the good stuff has gone flat too
- With feelings it’s all or nothing for me
- I keep telling myself the scrolling and the drinking are just me unwinding, but I notice I come out the other side emptier, not calmer
- I’ve gone numb to the good things right in front of me
- I’m stuck at one of two extremes with hard feelings
Practices that may help
- Stop numbing vulnerability
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
Daring Greatly, Made Practical - Stay with sensation without flooding (titrate)
Build the capacity to feel a sensation in tolerable doses instead of numbing or being swept away.
Interoception, Explained - Distinguish soothing from numbing
Know the difference between self-soothing (active, present) and numbing (passive escape) — both reduce distress but in opposite directions.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical - Mental subtraction (imagine it gone)
Briefly picture losing what you already have, to restore appreciation for it.
Premeditatio Malorum, in Depth - Mindful awareness of suffering
Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
Self-Compassion, Made Practical - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Label instead of suppress
Choose describing the feeling over clamping it down or distracting from it.
Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It - Come up from shutdown
When you are numb or foggy below the window, use stimulation to bring energy back up.
The Window of Tolerance: Your Optimal Arousal Zone - Adapt grounding for dissociation and derealization
When the world feels unreal, use stronger, more salient sensory inputs — cold, pressure, sharp flavors.
The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique - ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Emotional Numbing
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
Stop numbing vulnerability
- How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Numb Feeling
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
- Self Care Vs Numbing
Know the difference between self-soothing (active, present) and numbing (passive escape) — both reduce distress but in opposite directions.
Distinguish soothing from numbing
- When Interoception Building Interoceptive Window
Build the capacity to feel a sensation in tolerable doses instead of numbing or being swept away.
Stay with sensation without flooding (titrate)
- When Upekkha Equanimity Upekkha Near Enemy Check
Regularly check whether your equanimity is warm and aware or merely emotionally flat.
Detecting the near enemy: indifference versus genuine equanimity
- Emotional Numbness
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
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