Coaching practices for How to Stop Overthinking Everything I Say

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• In the heat of an argument the sharpest possible words just fly out of my mouth before I can stop them, and an hour later I’m sick about what I said
• One mistake mid-performance and my head spins into “you’re blowing it” on a loop that just feeds itself and wrecks the rest
• The whole time someone’s talking to me I’m watching myself from the outside
• I keep overthinking because some part of me is convinced that if I just chew on it long enough I’ll finally figure it out
• I’m gnawing on a what-if I clearly can’t do a single thing about, and when I try to force myself to just stop thinking about it, it only comes back louder

Practices that may help

1. The speech audit: THINK before you speak
   Before speaking in a charged moment, check whether the words are True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind.
   Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
2. Use thought-stopping to interrupt negative self-talk spirals
   Install a deliberate interruption cue that breaks self-critical rumination before it compounds.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
3. Shift attention from self to situation
   Redirect your attention from monitoring yourself to genuinely engaging with the other person.
   Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
4. Identify what triggers rumination and what it promises
   Map the cues, perceived benefits, and costs of your personal rumination pattern.
   Rumination-Focused CBT, Made Practical
5. Practice letting go of hypothetical worries
   For what-if worries you cannot act on, acknowledge them and gently redirect attention.
   The Worry Tree
6. Actively update your estimate of how much others notice
   When you assume everyone saw your blunder, consciously cut the estimate in half.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
7. Leaves on a stream visualization
   Imagine each thought as a leaf floating by on a stream — you watch it pass without grabbing it.
   Defusion from Anxious Thoughts
8. Stop the rumination loop
   Recognize when you are replaying the trigger and redirect — rumination is the gas pedal, not the engine.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
9. Counting distraction during havening
   Count aloud or silently while stroking to occupy the verbal mind and prevent rumination.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
10. Build scripts for situation entry and transitions
    Prepare simple, natural openers and transitions so you’re not improvising from scratch under pressure.
    Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework

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