Coaching practices for How to Talk to a Friend About Her Concerning Social Media Posts
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- One look at what everyone else is doing and the voice in my head turns vicious
- There are a handful of accounts I can name that leave me feeling small every single time, and I keep following them anyway
- I’d never speak to anyone else the way I speak to myself
- It’s the endless passive scrolling through other people’s lives that leaves me hollow and envious
- I tell myself I’m staying connected, but really I just scroll and watch for an hour without ever talking to a single person
Practices that may help
- Apply self-compassion when comparison creates self-criticism
When comparison activates self-criticism, meet it with the response you would give a close friend.
Social Comparison Online: What the Research Actually Shows - Curate your feed to reduce highly idealized and celebrity accounts
Unfollow or mute accounts whose posts consistently leave you feeling worse about yourself.
Social Comparison Online: What the Research Actually Shows - Replace critic monologue with compassionate self-talk
Speak to yourself the way you would speak to a close friend in the same situation.
Working With Your Inner Critic - Social Comparison Online: What the Research Actually Shows
Research by Vogel, Rose, and colleagues finds that passive social media use drives upward social comparison — comparing yourself unfavorably to curated, idealized profiles — and consistently reduces self-evaluations and mood. Active, direct engagement has weaker negative effects. The most effective interventions reduce passive consumption and build awareness of the comparison mechanism. - Replace passive scrolling with active, intentional social media use
Use social media to create, connect, and respond — not to scroll.
The 2-Hour Social Media Cap - Distinguish passive from active social media use
Scrolling and watching (passive) consistently harms wellbeing more than direct messaging and commenting (active).
Social Comparison Online: What the Research Actually Shows - Give yourself advice as if advising a close friend
Describe your problem as if a close friend brought it to you — then write the advice you would give them.
Self-Distancing Journaling - Map and limit your comparison triggers
Identify the specific contexts that reliably trigger upward comparison and reduce your exposure to them deliberately.
The Comparison Trap - Conduct a quarterly unfollow audit
Every three months, unfollow or mute any account that consistently produces comparison, envy, or resentment.
The 2-Hour Social Media Cap - Don’t make it about you
Resist the reflex to relate by topping their story with your own.
Holding Space
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Unfollow or mute accounts whose posts consistently leave you feeling worse about yourself.
Curate your feed to reduce highly idealized and celebrity accounts
- Conversation Vs Social Media
Research by Vogel, Rose, and colleagues finds that passive social media use drives upward social comparison — comparing yourself unfavorably to curated, idealized profiles — and consistently reduces self-evaluations and mood. Active, direct engagement has weaker negative effects. The most effective interventions reduce passive consumption and build awareness of the comparison mechanism.
- Curate Instagram Feed Wellbeing
Every three months, unfollow or mute any account that consistently produces comparison, envy, or resentment.
Conduct a quarterly unfollow audit
- How Social Media Affects Self Esteem
Research by Vogel, Rose, and colleagues finds that passive social media use drives upward social comparison — comparing yourself unfavorably to curated, idealized profiles — and consistently reduces self-evaluations and mood. Active, direct engagement has weaker negative effects. The most effective interventions reduce passive consumption and build awareness of the comparison mechanism.
- Passive Social Media Harm
Scrolling and watching (passive) consistently harms wellbeing more than direct messaging and commenting (active).
Distinguish passive from active social media use
- Social Comparison Online What The Research Actually Shows When Overwhelmed
Research by Vogel, Rose, and colleagues finds that passive social media use drives upward social comparison — comparing yourself unfavorably to curated, idealized profiles — and consistently reduces self-evaluations and mood. Active, direct engagement has weaker negative effects. The most effective interventions reduce passive consumption and build awareness of the comparison mechanism.
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