Coaching practices for How to Tell Coworker to Learn and Do it Themselves

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• I hand someone a task but spell out exactly how I’d do it, then pick at every little way they did it differently
• My team keeps bringing me bare problems and looking at me to solve them, so I end up doing all the thinking
• I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
• The moment someone brings me a problem the answer is already on my lips and I just hand it over
• I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t

Practices that may help

1. Delegate the outcome, not the procedure
   Define what "done" looks like and why it matters, then leave the how to them.
   Effective Delegation, Made Practical
2. Push recommendations up, not problems
   Require reports to bring a recommendation alongside any problem — it’s a delegation practice, not just a time-saver.
   Delegation Levels, Made Practical
3. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
   Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
4. Stay curious one beat longer before advising
   Resist the urge to give the answer for one more question — ask what they think first.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
5. Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
   Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
   Psychological Safety in Teams
6. Establish learner safety — making mistakes without punishment
   Make it safe to ask questions, make errors, and admit not knowing — without social penalty.
   The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
7. Resist upward (reverse) delegation
   Don’t let the task you delegated jump back onto your desk the first time it gets hard.
   Effective Delegation, Made Practical
8. Debrief to grow capability, not just to grade
   Close the loop with a learning-focused review so the next delegation needs less of you.
   Effective Delegation, Made Practical
9. Frame the work as a learning problem, not an execution problem
   Name the uncertainty and interdependence out loud so people expect to learn, not just deliver.
   Psychological Safety, Made Practical
10. Use delegation as a development tool
    Assign Q3 tasks to team members who are ready to stretch — and treat the learning curve as the point.
    The Eisenhower Matrix and Delegation

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