Coaching practices for How Can I Use the Immunity to Change Framework to Get Unstuck

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  • I genuinely want to make this change and I keep not doing it, and it’s not laziness
  • Every solution I try is just a variation on the same idea, and I can feel there’s some assumption I’m trapped inside that I can’t see
  • I can name the deep fear that keeps me stuck
  • I’ve been hammering at this for hours and just going in circles, but stopping feels like quitting, so I keep grinding
  • I’ve thrown so much at this change and it still won’t stick, and I honestly can’t tell whether the real problem is that I don’t want it enough, don’t know how, or my whole setup makes it impossible

Practices that may help

  1. Map your immunity to change
    Find the hidden competing commitments that are holding a desired change in place.
    Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
  2. Break mental fixation before you step away
    Name the assumption you keep returning to so the break can actually dislodge it.
    Incubation: Why Stepping Away Solves Problems
  3. Test the big assumption behind your immunity
    Design a small experiment to check whether the assumption keeping you stuck is actually true.
    Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
  4. Take a deliberate incubation break
    When stuck, stop working the problem and let time and an unrelated activity do the work.
    Incubation: Why Stepping Away Solves Problems
  5. Diagnose before you prescribe with COM-B
    Before picking a strategy, identify which of Capability, Opportunity, or Motivation is the bottleneck.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
  6. Prepare the ground: get protectors on board first
    Before approaching any exiled part, get explicit permission from the protectors guarding it.
    IFS Unburdening, Made Practical
  7. The time-boxed trial
    Run every new behavior as an explicit test with a fixed end date.
    Tiny Experiments: Testing Change Without Committing to It
  8. Build a containment or resource before approaching freeze
    Establish a felt sense of inner support before approaching any activating material.
    The Freeze Response and How to Thaw It
  9. Identify your current stage before choosing a strategy
    Diagnose where you actually are in the change cycle before deciding what to do.
    The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
  10. Map your immunity to change
    Surface the hidden competing commitment that keeps sabotaging a change you genuinely want.
    Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind

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