Coaching practices for I Recently Resigned From My Job and a Confidentiality Contract Was Violated

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• I carry the I’m-a-fraud feeling completely in secret because saying it out loud feels like it would confirm it
• I think my boss is about to make the wrong call and I’m biting my tongue to keep the peace, then quietly stewing about it after
• We’re both playing it so close to the chest that neither of us can find a better deal, but I’m scared that if I open up about what I actually want they’ll just use it against me
• I actually do have a solid other option, and I keep going back and forth on whether to mention it
• Someone senior just found out about a change after the fact and was hurt they were the last to know

Practices that may help

1. Say it out loud to someone safe
   Disclose the imposter feeling to a trusted peer or mentor to break its secrecy.
   Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical
2. Disagree with your manager constructively
   State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
3. Share information to unlock value
   Reveal interests (not your bottom line) so both sides can find the better deal.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
4. Decide strategically whether to reveal your BATNA
   A strong BATNA is worth revealing; a weak one is better concealed while you work on improving it.
   BATNA: Your Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement
5. Inform stakeholders before they ask, not after they complain
   I’s are one-way — they receive information; the cost of surprising them is always higher than the cost of telling them.
   The RACI Matrix, Made Practical
6. Notice and question the story you’ve already told yourself
   Between the missed commitment and the conversation, you have built a narrative — and that narrative will leak into the conversation.
   Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter
7. Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
   Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
8. Respond non-punitively to mistakes
   When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
   Psychological Safety in Teams
9. Public commitment
   Announce the goal to people whose opinion you care about.
   Precommitment Devices (Ulysses Contracts)
10. Involve the affected community, not just the two parties
    Harm rarely affects only two people — include those affected by the ripple.
    Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)

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