Coaching practices for Identify Your Life Stage

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I honestly can’t tell where I am in my own life right now
• This chapter of my life feels like scattered, disconnected fragments with no through-line, and I want to be able to tell the story of it
• Some of my closest friendships feel like we’re living in different worlds now, and I feel guilty for drifting
• Everything that used to give my life shape suddenly feels hollow and the new thing hasn’t arrived yet, so I’m stuck in this disorienting in-between
• My past runs together into one undifferentiated tangle, and I want to break it into distinct phases and name each one

Practices that may help

1. Identify your current season honestly
   Name the season you are actually in — not the one you want to be in or the one others expect.
   Seasons of Life
2. Seasons of Life
   The seasons-of-life framework treats adult development as a sequence of distinct phases — each with its own natural demands, appropriate priorities, and transition challenges. Drawing on developmental psychology (Levinson, Erikson, Sheehy) and practical life-design work, it argues that straining against your current season (trying to do spring work in autumn, or refusing to accept a transition) produces more distress than the season itself.
3. Write a brief narrative of your season to make it coherent
   People who can tell a coherent story about their life stage navigate it more effectively than those who cannot.
   Seasons of Life
4. Review whether your key relationships are season-appropriate
   Some relationships that sustained you in a past season may be misaligned with your current one — and vice versa.
   Seasons of Life
5. Navigate season transitions — the gap is normal and necessary
   The confusion and loss of meaning between seasons is structural, not personal failure.
   Seasons of Life
6. Chapter titles — giving each life phase a name
   Divide your life line into phases and give each a chapter title that captures its essential quality.
   The Life Line Exercise
7. Engage generativity — the natural work of midlife and later seasons
   Midlife and later seasons are calling for contribution, mentorship, and transmission — not just personal achievement.
   Seasons of Life
8. Audit the reference groups driving your spending
   Identify whose lifestyle you’re unconsciously trying to match, and question whether that’s your actual target.
   Lifestyle Creep: Why Raises Don’t Make You Richer
9. Run an annual values-spending alignment review
   Review your spending against your values once a year — values shift, and so should the allocation.
   Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
10. Map your life in chapters
    Divide your life into named chapters to see the arc you’ve been living.
    Narrative Identity, Made Practical

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