Coaching practices for Implementation Intentions Parenting
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- There are a few situations that go badly every single time
- I genuinely intend to do the thing
- I genuinely mean to do it, but the day swallows it every time and “I’ll get to it” never actually turns into doing it
- I keep telling myself I’ll get to it "sometime today" and then the day just dissolves and I never do
- I’ve identified the area I want to change and now I’m just sitting on a vague intention like "be more present with my kids"
Practices that may help
- Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Set if-then implementation intentions for goal behaviors
Specify when, where, and how you’ll act — not just whether you intend to.
Hyperbolic Discounting — Why Future You Always Gets the Short End - Write when, where, and how plans for every behavioral goal
Specify exactly when, where, and how you will act — not just what you intend to do.
Action Planning - Specify the when and where for every goal action
"I will do [behavior] at [time] in [location]" — specificity creates an automatic trigger.
If–Then Planning, Made Practical - Turn the chosen domain into a committed action
Convert the domain insight into a concrete, timed, values-linked behavior — not a vague intention.
Values Bullseye, Made Practical - End every AAR with one specific, time-bound next action
An AAR without a concrete next action produces insight without change.
After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning - Action Planning
Action planning — specifying when, where, and how you will execute a goal-directed behavior — is one of the best-supported techniques for closing the intention-behavior gap. Orbell and Sheeran’s research, along with Peter Gollwitzer’s work on implementation intentions, shows that forming specific plans reliably increases behavior over vague intentions alone, with meta-analytic effect sizes in the small-to-medium range. - Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior
Dreikurs argued that misbehavior is always purposeful — the child is pursuing belonging or significance through a mistaken strategy.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Use commitment devices to make future behavior harder to avoid
Pre-commit to the behavior now — when your current self is motivated — to bind your future self.
Action Planning
Related concerns
- Implementation Intentions
Specify when, where, and how you’ll act — not just whether you intend to.
Set if-then implementation intentions for goal behaviors
- Implementation Intentions Management
Specify when, where, and how you’ll act — not just whether you intend to.
- Implementation Intention Performance
Specify when, where, and how you’ll act — not just whether you intend to.
- Implementation Intention Steps
Specify exactly when, where, and how you will act — not just what you intend to do.
Write when, where, and how plans for every behavioral goal
- Implementation Intention When Where
Specify exactly when, where, and how you will act — not just what you intend to do.
- Aar Implementation Intention
An AAR without a concrete next action produces insight without change.
End every AAR with one specific, time-bound next action
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