Coaching practices for In the Moment Feedback

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  • I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
  • I tend to bite my tongue in the moment and save things up for the formal review, and then I dump weeks of accumulated issues on someone all at once
  • My work only pays off way down the line
  • I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
  • By the time I find out how something I did actually landed, it’s days or weeks later and I can’t even remember which choice caused it

Practices that may help

  1. Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
    Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
  2. Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
    Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
  3. Build in immediate feedback
    Set up the task so you can tell instantly whether you are on track.
    Flow Triggers, Made Practical
  4. Invite a response after delivering SBI
    Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
  5. Build immediate feedback loops into every repetition
    Shorten the gap between action and information about that action to minutes, not days.
    Growth-Edge Training: Practicing at the Edge of Your Ability
  6. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
    Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
    The Johari Window
  7. Get immediate, specific feedback
    Shorten the gap between an attempt and knowing exactly what was wrong.
    Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice
  8. Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
    Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
    Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
  9. Build in immediate feedback
    Arrange to see right away whether each action is working.
    Flow: Engineering the State of Total Absorption
  10. Make feedback flow in both directions
    Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
    Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical

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