Coaching practices for Inner Wealth Parenting
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- I careen between cracking down like a drill sergeant and then feeling guilty and just letting everything slide, and my kid never knows which version of me they’re getting
- Every little thing turns into a power struggle because my kid wants to control everything, and I’m stuck between bossing them through the whole day or handing them a freedom they’re not ready for
- My child can’t seem to name what they’re feeling
Practices that may help
- Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Provide warmth and structure simultaneously
Children need to know they are loved and to know what is expected — these work together, not against each other.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Use family meetings to solve problems together
When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
Related concerns
- Adlerian Parenting
Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited.
- Autonomy Support Parenting
Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
- Authoritative Parenting Diana Baumrind At Work
Diana Baumrind’s authoritative parenting style combines high warmth with high structure — responsiveness to the child’s needs alongside consistent, explained expectations. It is the most extensively researched parenting style and is consistently associated with better child outcomes across academic achievement, social competence, and emotional adjustment, compared to authoritarian (high control, low warmth) or permissive (low control, high warmth) styles. Most of the evidence is observational; causal direction and cultural generalizability require caveats.
- How Structured Does A Childs Life Need To Be
Children need to know they are loved and to know what is expected — these work together, not against each other.
Provide warmth and structure simultaneously
- Kind And Firm Parenting
Kind without firm is permissive; firm without kind is authoritarian. The practice is holding both at once.
Be kind AND firm — simultaneously, not alternately
- Mastery Experiences As A Parent
Albert Bandura identified mastery experiences — successfully completing difficult tasks — as the most powerful source of self-efficacy. Unlike praise or encouragement, mastery experiences produce direct evidence of capability; the brain stores that evidence and draws on it under future challenge. The evidence across clinical, educational, and occupational research is strong.
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