Coaching practices for Is This Normal Behavior for Child and Grandparent

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• Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
• My kid is full of wild physical energy and I tend to shut down the wrestling and chasing because I’m afraid it’ll spin out of control
• I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
• All day my kid keeps coming to show me things and I keep saying "in a minute" because I’m busy, and then the moment I need them to cooperate they dig in
• I praise my kid constantly

Practices that may help

1. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
2. Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
   Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
3. Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
   Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
4. Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
   A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
   Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
5. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
   Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
6. Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
   Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
7. Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
   All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
8. Talk with your child about their day and interests
   Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
9. Teach that Green is the goal, not the only acceptable zone
   All zones are normal; the goal is knowing which zone a situation calls for and how to get there.
   Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
10. Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior
    Dreikurs argued that misbehavior is always purposeful — the child is pursuing belonging or significance through a mistaken strategy.
    Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)

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