Coaching practices for Kim Scott Care Personally
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- I realize I know exactly what each person on my team is working on this week but almost nothing about where they’re actually trying to get to in their life
- I keep letting this person’s slipping work slide because I like them and don’t want to make it awkward, and I’ve told myself that’s kindness
- I care about my people so much that I’ve started absorbing their personal crises and trying to fix their lives, and I can’t tell anymore where being a supportive manager stops and me overstepping into someone I shouldn’t be begins.
- Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong
- I tossed off a "great work" to someone and watched it land flat, because we both knew I hadn’t really looked at what they did
Practices that may help
- Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
Kim Scott’s "care personally" is the axis of radical candor that separates candor that helps from candor that harms: it means genuinely giving a damn about the person — their growth, goals, and life outside work — not just their output. Without it, even honest feedback lands as attack. The framework is practitioner-derived from Scott’s time at Google and Apple, grounded in well-established research on trust and feedback receptivity. - Learn what each person actually wants from their career and life
Care personally means knowing the goal behind the job — not just what they’re working on, but why.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Care personally without lowering the bar
Ruinous empathy masquerades as caring — real care means holding the standard because you want them to succeed.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Know where care ends and overreach begins
Caring personally means being available, not being a therapist — know the limit of your role.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Radical Candor, Made Practical
Kim Scott’s radical candor is the combination of two things at once: caring personally about the person and challenging them directly. Drop the caring and you get obnoxious aggression; drop the challenge and you get ruinous empathy or manipulative insincerity. It’s a practitioner framework from her time at Google and Apple, not a tested protocol, though it rhymes with research on candor and trust. - Give recognition that names the person’s specific effort, not just the outcome
Generic praise signals you were not paying attention; specific recognition proves you were.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Give something genuine before you ask for something hard
The trust account needs deposits before you make a withdrawal — invest in the relationship before demanding performance.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Make one-on-ones genuinely theirs, not yours
One-on-ones that serve the manager’s agenda demonstrate the opposite of caring personally.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - The Action Method, Made Practical
Scott Belsky’s Action Method, developed at Behance, argues that most productivity systems fail by treating all captured content equally. Its core move is to classify every piece of information into one of three buckets: Action Steps (things you do), References (things you might use), and Backburner Items (things you might act on later). Only Action Steps advance projects. The system is practitioner-designed and well-used in creative industries; formal evidence is limited.
Related concerns
- Caring Personally The Foundation Of Radical Candor As A Caregiver
Kim Scott’s "care personally" is the axis of radical candor that separates candor that helps from candor that harms: it means genuinely giving a damn about the person — their growth, goals, and life outside work — not just their output. Without it, even honest feedback lands as attack. The framework is practitioner-derived from Scott’s time at Google and Apple, grounded in well-established research on trust and feedback receptivity.
- What Does Care Personally Mean Radical Candor
Kim Scott’s "care personally" is the axis of radical candor that separates candor that helps from candor that harms: it means genuinely giving a damn about the person — their growth, goals, and life outside work — not just their output. Without it, even honest feedback lands as attack. The framework is practitioner-derived from Scott’s time at Google and Apple, grounded in well-established research on trust and feedback receptivity.
- Care Personally Radical Candor
Kim Scott’s "care personally" is the axis of radical candor that separates candor that helps from candor that harms: it means genuinely giving a damn about the person — their growth, goals, and life outside work — not just their output. Without it, even honest feedback lands as attack. The framework is practitioner-derived from Scott’s time at Google and Apple, grounded in well-established research on trust and feedback receptivity.
- Caring Candour Practice
Kim Scott’s "care personally" is the axis of radical candor that separates candor that helps from candor that harms: it means genuinely giving a damn about the person — their growth, goals, and life outside work — not just their output. Without it, even honest feedback lands as attack. The framework is practitioner-derived from Scott’s time at Google and Apple, grounded in well-established research on trust and feedback receptivity.
- Caring Personally Challenging Directly
Caring personally means being available, not being a therapist — know the limit of your role.
Know where care ends and overreach begins
- Caring Personally The Foundation Of Radical Candor After A Loss
Kim Scott’s "care personally" is the axis of radical candor that separates candor that helps from candor that harms: it means genuinely giving a damn about the person — their growth, goals, and life outside work — not just their output. Without it, even honest feedback lands as attack. The framework is practitioner-derived from Scott’s time at Google and Apple, grounded in well-established research on trust and feedback receptivity.
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