Coaching practices for Know Your Urge Triggers

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  • The urges seem to come out of nowhere, but I’m starting to suspect they don’t
  • The same situations set me off every time
  • When a craving hits it feels like it’ll just keep climbing forever until I give in
  • The urge shows up as this relentless voice in my head making the case for why I should just do it, and as long as I’m arguing with the thought it owns me
  • The second I feel a craving I start beating myself up for being so weak, and the shame somehow makes me want the thing even more

Practices that may help

  1. Map your urge triggers
    Know the specific situations, emotions, and states that reliably trigger your urges — so you can intervene before they crest.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  2. Plan ahead for predictable triggers
    Decide in advance how you will surf the urges you know are coming.
    Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
  3. Understand the anatomy of an urge
    Learn that urges have a beginning, a peak, and an end — and that acting on or fighting them changes the arc.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  4. Locate the urge in your body
    Track where the urge lives physically — in tension, heat, agitation — rather than engaging with the thought that wants you to act.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  5. Meet the urge without judging yourself
    Treat having an urge as normal and human, not as evidence of weakness.
    Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
  6. Notice the urge as it arises
    Catch the craving early, the moment it starts, before it becomes an automatic action.
    Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
  7. Build urge tolerance over time
    Deliberately expose yourself to urges without acting on them — tolerance grows with repeated, successful riding.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  8. Ride the wave to its peak and down
    Watch the urge rise, crest, and fall without acting — like a wave you are surfing.
    Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
  9. Urge Surfing: Riding Out the Impulse Without Acting
    Treat an urge to act impulsively like a wave — observe it rise and fall without being swept away.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  10. Surf the urge instead of fighting it
    Urges are waves — they rise, peak, and fall without action if you observe rather than fight them.
    The Willpower Instinct: What Self-Control Actually Is

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