Coaching practices for Make it Stick the Science of Learning During Conflict
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- I jump straight to the worked answer to save time, and it always looks obvious in hindsight
- I’ve got a pile of memorized facts floating around with nothing holding them together, and the second I try to explain any of it in my own words or use it somewhere new, it falls apart
- The moment we start arguing, any sense that I actually like and respect this person evaporates
- It all feels so smooth and familiar that I walk in sure I’ve got it, and then I bomb the test and can’t understand the gap
- The moment a hard topic comes up I go stiff and grim, and that heaviness makes the whole thing feel like a standoff
Practices that may help
- Make It Stick: The Science of Learning
"Make It Stick", by Peter Brown with psychologists Henry Roediger and Mark McDaniel, distills decades of cognitive science into a few high-leverage practices: retrieval practice, spacing, interleaving, and elaboration. Its central counterintuitive claim — that the most effective learning feels harder and slower than rereading — is backed by strong experimental evidence. - Generation: attempt before you are taught
Try to solve or answer first, even if you get it wrong, before seeing the solution.
Make It Stick: The Science of Learning - Elaboration
Explain new material in your own words and connect it to what you already know.
Make It Stick: The Science of Learning - Protect fondness actively during and after conflict
Conflict is the test of PSO — deliberately hold the positive frame while the negative one is loudest.
Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships - Beware illusions of knowing
Don’t trust the feeling of fluency — it routinely overstates what you actually know.
Make It Stick: The Science of Learning - Easy Manner: bring a light touch when appropriate
Use humor, lightness, and warmth to remind both of you that the relationship is bigger than this conflict.
GIVE: DBT’s Skill for Preserving Relationships During Difficult Conversations - Spaced practice
Spread study over time instead of cramming it into one session.
Make It Stick: The Science of Learning - Retrieval practice (testing to learn)
Quiz yourself to learn, not just to check what you already know.
Make It Stick: The Science of Learning - Space retrieval attempts across increasing intervals
Test yourself on a topic after a delay, then again after a longer delay — the effort of retrieval at the edge of forgetting makes the memory strongest.
The Testing Effect: Why Retrieval Practice Beats Restudying - Use spaced repetition of core ideas in teaching and coaching
Revisiting key concepts across sessions builds fluent understanding — mere exposure amplifies spaced practice.
The Mere Exposure Effect, Made Practical
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- Make It Stick The Science Of Learning At Work
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- Make It Stick The Science Of Learning During A Big Change
"Make It Stick", by Peter Brown with psychologists Henry Roediger and Mark McDaniel, distills decades of cognitive science into a few high-leverage practices: retrieval practice, spacing, interleaving, and elaboration. Its central counterintuitive claim — that the most effective learning feels harder and slower than rereading — is backed by strong experimental evidence.
- Make It Stick The Science Of Learning For My Teenager
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- Make It Stick The Science Of Learning On A Budget
"Make It Stick", by Peter Brown with psychologists Henry Roediger and Mark McDaniel, distills decades of cognitive science into a few high-leverage practices: retrieval practice, spacing, interleaving, and elaboration. Its central counterintuitive claim — that the most effective learning feels harder and slower than rereading — is backed by strong experimental evidence.
- Make It Stick The Science Of Learning When Overwhelmed
"Make It Stick", by Peter Brown with psychologists Henry Roediger and Mark McDaniel, distills decades of cognitive science into a few high-leverage practices: retrieval practice, spacing, interleaving, and elaboration. Its central counterintuitive claim — that the most effective learning feels harder and slower than rereading — is backed by strong experimental evidence.
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