Coaching practices for Making a Big Decision

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I agonize for days over tiny choices I could undo in a second, then rush the big ones I can’t take back
• I’m agonizing over this choice like it’s carved in stone and I can never come back from it, paralyzed by a downside that has me frozen
• I’m facing a big decision and I keep weighing only how it plays out over the next year or two
• I’m about to commit to something big and I can feel that I’ve already decided in my gut
• I rush the big, costly decisions the same way I rush picking lunch

Practices that may help

1. Classify decisions by reversibility and stakes
   Sort decisions into low-stakes/high-stakes and reversible/irreversible before deciding.
   Decision Journaling: Learning to Decide Better Over Time
2. Check reversibility before you fear the downside
   Most decisions are reversible; reserve maximum caution for the few that aren’t.
   The Regret-Minimization Framework
3. The seventh-generation test for decisions
   Before a major choice, ask how it will affect people seven generations from now.
   The Good Ancestor: Long-Path Thinking for a Meaningful Life
4. Map the argument before you commit to a decision
   Create a quick argument map as a pre-commitment check on major decisions.
   Argument Mapping
5. Slow down for high-stakes, irreversible decisions
   Match deliberation to the cost of being wrong: spend System 2 where reversal is hard.
   Thinking, Fast and Slow, Made Usable
6. Slow down on one-way doors
   For irreversible decisions, invest in deliberation proportional to the downside — not to your confidence.
   The Two-Way Door
7. Project to age 80 and look back
   Ask which choice your 80-year-old self will least regret.
   The Regret-Minimization Framework
8. Name your emotional state before making an important decision
   Identify and name the emotion you are in before committing to a significant choice.
   The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
9. Sleep on important decisions
   For complex decisions, delay commitment overnight — sleep processing integrates information deliberate thought misses.
   The Three Bs of Creativity: Bed, Bath, and Bus
10. Use the 10-year view to check values alignment
    Ask: is the 10-year version of this choice consistent with what I actually care about?
    The 10-10-10 Rule

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