Coaching practices for Manager vs Therapist
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- When I’m overwhelmed I just clamp down and handle it by myself in silence, even with my partner right there
- I’ll have a breakthrough where I really feel the better version of my story, and then a few days later the old defeating account has quietly taken back over as if it never happened
- One part of me wants out, another part won’t let me, and they just war with each other on a loop
- There’s a part of me that criticizes or numbs out or controls everything, and I keep trying to just make it stop
- I’m in a place with almost no mental-health services, carrying things from war and displacement, and I keep hearing real trauma help needs a specialist I can’t reach
Practices that may help
- Shift from one-person to two-person psychology
Stop managing your distress alone and start managing it together.
Secure-Functioning Relationships - Therapeutic Letters
A therapist’s written letter to a client between sessions — documenting alternative-story gains before they fade.
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You - Working with Multiple Selves (Chair Work in CFT)
Give voice to different internal parts — the critic, the anxious self, the compassionate self — to understand and change the dialogue.
Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic - Understanding protectors
Get to know the managers and firefighters that work hard to keep you from pain.
Internal Family Systems (IFS), Made Practical - Understand that NET can be delivered by trained non-clinicians
NET is specifically designed for low-resource settings and has been validated when delivered by trained laypersons — not only psychologists.
Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET): Weaving Trauma Into a Coherent Life Story - Time Perspective Therapy
Philip Zimbardo's time perspective research shows that people systematically over-index on one time orientation — past-negative, present-hedonistic, future-focused — and that this bias predicts health, financial, and relationship outcomes. The goal is a "balanced time perspective" that draws flexibly on all orientations. The psychometric research is solid; direct clinical trial evidence for time perspective therapy as an intervention is more limited. - Fight the problem, not each other
Reorient conflict so both partners face the problem together rather than facing each other.
Secure-Functioning Relationships - Coach the person, not just the problem
The most important thing a manager can work on is the person’s capacity to handle future problems, not just today’s.
The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm - Identify noogenic (meaning-layer) problems, not just psychological ones
Ask whether your current suffering is about a psychological difficulty or a deeper question about meaning — because they require different responses.
Logotherapy: Dereflection - Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You
Narrative therapy, developed by Michael White and David Epston, holds that people live by stories — about who they are, what they’re capable of, and what their experiences mean. By separating the person from the problem ("the person is not the problem; the problem is the problem") and finding "unique outcomes" that contradict a limiting story, therapy opens space to author a more empowering alternative. The evidence base is growing but smaller and less methodologically uniform than CBT.
Related concerns
- How Are You Managing Therapy Question
When things seem terrible, ask how the person is managing at all — acknowledging and excavating their resilience.
Coping Questions
- How Does Net Therapy Work
Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET), developed by Schauer, Neuner, and Elbert, is a structured short-term treatment for PTSD that works by having the client construct a detailed narrative of their entire life — placing traumatic events within a larger biographical context, rather than isolating them. Multiple randomized trials in refugee and war-affected populations show significant, durable reductions in PTSD symptoms. NET is particularly suited to complex and repeated trauma where individual events cannot easily be isolated.
- Net Narrative Therapy
Narrative therapy, developed by Michael White and David Epston, holds that people live by stories — about who they are, what they’re capable of, and what their experiences mean. By separating the person from the problem ("the person is not the problem; the problem is the problem") and finding "unique outcomes" that contradict a limiting story, therapy opens space to author a more empowering alternative. The evidence base is growing but smaller and less methodologically uniform than CBT.
- Absent But Implicit Narrative Therapy
Every problem story implies a violated value — surfacing that value reveals the person’s strengths, not just their struggles.
The Absent But Implicit: What Problems Reveal About What We Value
- Act Therapy
ACT teaches you to stop fighting difficult thoughts and feelings and instead take committed action toward what you value, even while they are present. Its core processes — defusion, acceptance, contact with values, and committed action — have a substantial and growing base of randomized-trial support across many conditions.
- Alternative Narrative Therapy
Narrative therapy, developed by Michael White and David Epston, holds that people live by stories — about who they are, what they’re capable of, and what their experiences mean. By separating the person from the problem ("the person is not the problem; the problem is the problem") and finding "unique outcomes" that contradict a limiting story, therapy opens space to author a more empowering alternative. The evidence base is growing but smaller and less methodologically uniform than CBT.
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