Coaching practices for Manager Wants to Hire Me Hr Does Not How to Proceed

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I keep hiring for the most impressive resume and then watching them work purely transactionally, and I want to start screening for whether someone actually believes in what we’re doing
• I want to message someone in a field I’m curious about, but I freeze on what to even say
• My whole job search is just refreshing job boards and firing off applications into the void, competing with hundreds of strangers for whatever happens to be posted
• I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
• I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled

Practices that may help

1. Hire people who share the Why, not just the skills
   Skills can be learned; shared belief cannot — filtering for Why-alignment at hiring is the highest-leverage culture move.
   Start With Why: Leading Through Purpose
2. Request the conversation the right way
   A short, specific, no-pressure request gets far more responses than a vague networking ask.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
3. Build and work a target list of roles and organisations
   Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
4. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
   Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
5. Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
   Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
6. Use genius mapping in onboarding
   Surface a new hire’s geniuses early so you design their role around energy, not just skills.
   The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni)
7. Use the door-in-the-face structure in salary and price negotiations
   In salary negotiation, opening high is partly a door-in-the-face move — your real ask lands against a high anchor.
   The Door-in-the-Face Technique, Made Practical
8. Send proactive, brief status updates
   Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
9. Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
   Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
10. Calibrated questions
    Ask open “How” and “What” questions that hand the other side the problem to solve.
    Never Split the Difference, In Practice

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