Coaching practices for Mcadams Agency Communion
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My whole story is achievement, achievement, achievement
- When I follow a bargaining script the other person can feel it
- My team is looking to me to read how bad things really are, and I’m stuck
- All our communication is ad-hoc
- I keep deferring to what other people think is right and then feel hollow about decisions that were never really mine
Practices that may help
- Balance agency and communion themes in your story
Check whether your life narrative is weighted toward self-expansion (agency) or connection (communion).
Narrative Identity, Made Practical - The Ackerman Method, Made Practical
The Ackerman method, popularized by Chris Voss in Never Split the Difference, is a structured offer-and-counteroffer system. You set a target price, then make a sequence of calculated bids that converge on that target with decreasing increments — signaling that you are near your limit even as you create the appearance of flexibility. The method uses psychology to make your counterpart feel they have won a hard bargain. - Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical
ACT teaches you to stop fighting difficult thoughts and feelings and instead take committed action toward what you value, even while they are present. Its core processes — defusion, acceptance, contact with values, and committed action — have a substantial and growing base of randomized-trial support across many conditions. - Maintain empathy and calibrated questions throughout the Ackerman process
The bidding system only works inside a relationship — empathy and understanding keep the counterpart engaged rather than walking away.
The Ackerman Method, Made Practical - Committed Action, Made Practical
Committed action — a core ACT process developed by Steven Hayes — means taking concrete, repeated steps toward what you value even while discomfort is present, rather than waiting for the feeling of readiness. It is the behavioral spine of ACT, which has substantial randomized-trial support across anxiety, depression, chronic pain, and other conditions. - Narrative Identity, Made Practical
Dan McAdams’ narrative identity theory holds that identity itself is a personal myth — an internalized, evolving story that integrates your past, present, and imagined future into a coherent sense of self. The structure and tone of that story (whether it moves toward redemption or contamination, agency or communion) predicts psychological well-being, and the story can be deliberately revised. Evidence is primarily observational but robustly consistent. - Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical - Establish a full meeting rhythm from daily to annual
Align daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, and annual meetings into a coherent cadence that replaces ad-hoc communication.
The Rockefeller Habits: Scaling Up with Rhythm and Focus - Bids for Connection: The Small Moments That Make or Break Relationships
A bid for connection is any small attempt to engage a partner -- a comment, a question, a touch, a sigh. John Gottman's observational research found that couples who turned toward bids far more often than they turned away were far more likely to stay together six years later. The research is correlational but one of the more specific findings in the couples literature. - Develop your own compass for decisions
Build a personal value system that guides decisions independently of social approval.
Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Chris Voss Ackerman Bidding
The Ackerman method, popularized by Chris Voss in Never Split the Difference, is a structured offer-and-counteroffer system. You set a target price, then make a sequence of calculated bids that converge on that target with decreasing increments — signaling that you are near your limit even as you create the appearance of flexibility. The method uses psychology to make your counterpart feel they have won a hard bargain.
- Dan Mcadams Personal Myth
Dan McAdams’ narrative identity theory holds that identity itself is a personal myth — an internalized, evolving story that integrates your past, present, and imagined future into a coherent sense of self. The structure and tone of that story (whether it moves toward redemption or contamination, agency or communion) predicts psychological well-being, and the story can be deliberately revised. Evidence is primarily observational but robustly consistent.
- Accept Then Act
ACT teaches you to stop fighting difficult thoughts and feelings and instead take committed action toward what you value, even while they are present. Its core processes — defusion, acceptance, contact with values, and committed action — have a substantial and growing base of randomized-trial support across many conditions.
- Acceptance And Commitment Therapy
ACT teaches you to stop fighting difficult thoughts and feelings and instead take committed action toward what you value, even while they are present. Its core processes — defusion, acceptance, contact with values, and committed action — have a substantial and growing base of randomized-trial support across many conditions.
- Acceptance And Commitment Therapy Act After A Setback
ACT teaches you to stop fighting difficult thoughts and feelings and instead take committed action toward what you value, even while they are present. Its core processes — defusion, acceptance, contact with values, and committed action — have a substantial and growing base of randomized-trial support across many conditions.
- Acceptance And Commitment Therapy Act As A Caregiver
ACT teaches you to stop fighting difficult thoughts and feelings and instead take committed action toward what you value, even while they are present. Its core processes — defusion, acceptance, contact with values, and committed action — have a substantial and growing base of randomized-trial support across many conditions.
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