Coaching practices for Naive Realism Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are During Conflict

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  • I can spot everyone else’s blind spots instantly
  • Someone just said something that feels so obviously wrong I can feel the heat rising, and I’m about to fire back
  • This disagreement has hardened into us-versus-them, like we want completely opposite things
  • They went quiet, or left me on read, and I instantly knew what it meant
  • Everything I read and everyone I ask keeps confirming what I already believe, and it’s starting to feel too clean

Practices that may help

  1. Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are
    Naive realism is the near-universal conviction that one perceives the world directly and accurately, and that anyone who disagrees is therefore biased, uninformed, or irrational. Identified by Lee Ross and Andrew Ward, the bias is well supported in social psychology research and underlies a wide range of interpersonal and political conflict.
  2. Question your own objectivity explicitly
    Ask yourself what forces might be shaping your perception before assuming you see things clearly.
    Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are
  3. Recognize the perspective gap before responding
    Pause before reacting to disagreement to ask what information or experience could make the other view coherent.
    Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are
  4. Map shared values before mapping the disagreement
    In any conflict, identify the values or goals you and the other person genuinely share before cataloguing differences.
    Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are
  5. Slow down interpretation of others’ intent
    Treat your first read of someone’s motivation as a hypothesis, not a fact, and hold it loosely.
    Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are
  6. Actively seek information that disconfirms your view
    Deliberately look for the best evidence against your current position before committing to it.
    Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are
  7. Steelman the opposing view before rebutting it
    Reconstruct the strongest possible version of the argument you disagree with — then respond to that.
    Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are
  8. Default to attributional charity for others’ behavior
    When someone acts in a way that seems wrong, first generate a situational explanation before a dispositional one.
    Naive Realism: Why Everyone Thinks They See Things as They Are
  9. Take their perspective accurately
    Build a precise model of how the situation looks from their side, not a caricature.
    Tactical Empathy
  10. Separate the person from the problem
    Treat the conflict as a problem you face together, not a contest you fight each other.
    The Third Alternative, Made Practical

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