Coaching practices for Name the Emotion

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I can name what I’m feeling but it still has me by the throat
• Everything just comes out as "stressed" or "I feel bad," and that catch-all blob never tells me what to actually do
• Something just hit me and I’m flooded
• I can tell I’m off — short with people, tight, reactive — but if you asked me what I’m actually feeling I couldn’t say, and I want to slow down enough to even know what’s going on in me.
• Something is really getting to me right now and it’s running the show, but if you asked me what the feeling actually is I couldn’t tell you

Practices that may help

1. Dual labeling: name both the emotion word and its body location
   Follow an emotion word with its body location: "Anxiety — tight chest and held breath."
   Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
2. Granular labeling: move from broad to specific emotion words
   Replace "stressed" or "bad" with the most specific emotion word you can find.
   Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
3. Simple affect label: say the emotion word aloud or in writing
   When emotionally activated, say or write one clear emotion word — "fear," "anger," "grief" — before doing anything else.
   Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
4. R — Recognize what is happening
   Pause and name what is actually present: "Fear is here," "Anger is here," "Shame is here."
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
5. Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical
   Labeling — naming what the other person seems to be feeling before any argument or ask — reduces the emotional intensity of the feeling and makes the other party feel understood, which lowers their defenses. Affect-labeling research (Lieberman et al., 2007) shows that putting feelings into words reduces amygdala activity; Chris Voss built this into FBI hostage-negotiation practice. The technique is most powerful when the label is accurate and delivered without judgment.
6. Name the emotion in plain words
   Say what you feel as a simple statement: "I am feeling anxious right now."
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
7. Name what the emotion is doing in your body
   Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
8. Name the emotion accurately
   Use precise emotion words — not just "fine" or "stressed" — to be honest with yourself about what you actually feel.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
9. Expand your feelings vocabulary
   Deliberately learn and use a wider range of emotion words than "good" and "bad".
   Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill
10. Identify the action urge
    Name exactly what the emotion is pushing you to do, so you can choose the opposite.
    Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge

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