Coaching practices for Naming the Loss Leadership
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep selling this change as a clear win and can’t understand why people are dragging their feet
- There’s this clutching dread that takes over the instant a loss is on the line and just runs me on autopilot
- I want their life to keep meaning something in the world, not just end
- This one loss feels like the end of the world when I stare right at it, and I keep checking it obsessively, which only makes it worse
- I can’t even put words to why this is hitting me so hard
Practices that may help
- Name the loss the adaptive challenge requires
Explicitly acknowledge what people must give up — not just what they will gain.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Name the feeling to defuse the reflex
Labeling "this is loss aversion talking" turns an automatic reflex into a choice.
Loss Aversion, Made Practical - Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life
Identify values, projects, or commitments the person cared about and carry them forward yourself.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical - Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
Loss Aversion, Made Practical - Name the loss and its disenfranchisement explicitly
Say directly what was lost and that others may not recognise its significance — to yourself first.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Map the assumptive world the loss disrupted
Identify which of your core beliefs about life, self, and the future the loss has challenged.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Loss Aversion, Made Practical
Loss aversion is the well-documented tendency for losses to feel roughly twice as painful as equivalent gains feel good, which pushes people toward bad decisions to avoid the sting of a loss. It is one of the most reliably replicated findings in behavioral economics — the practical skill is learning to notice when the framing, not the facts, is driving you. - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Take extreme ownership
When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Validating Unrecognised Loss
Gradually widen the circle of people who know about the loss and can offer recognition.
Practice speaking about the loss to people outside your immediate circle
- Adaptive Change And Loss
Explicitly acknowledge what people must give up — not just what they will gain.
Name the loss the adaptive challenge requires
- Adjusting To Loss
A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
- Ambiguous Loss
Some losses have no clear end point — a relationship that faded, a parent with dementia, a country left behind.
Recognise when loss is ambiguous, not just unacknowledged
- Essentialism After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
- Habit Loss Life Change
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
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