Coaching practices for Adjusting to Loss

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• This one loss feels like the end of the world when I stare right at it, and I keep checking it obsessively, which only makes it worse
• I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
• It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
• I deal with my grief by doing and fixing rather than weeping, and everyone keeps treating that as cold or in denial
• They handled the money, or the cooking, or were just the person I leaned on

Practices that may help

1. Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
   A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
   Loss Aversion, Made Practical
2. Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
   Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
3. Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
   Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
4. Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
   Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
5. Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
   Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
6. Treating grief as a form of gratitude
   When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
   Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things
7. Name the loss the adaptive challenge requires
   Explicitly acknowledge what people must give up — not just what they will gain.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
8. Reframing loss as transformation
   When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
   Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift
9. Name the feeling to defuse the reflex
   Labeling "this is loss aversion talking" turns an automatic reflex into a choice.
   Loss Aversion, Made Practical
10. Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
    Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
    Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical

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