Coaching practices for No Argument Rule Feedback
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- Every time my partner and I try to swap ideas it slides into scoring points
- The second someone suggests something, I’m already arguing back in my head
- Every reason I come up with points the same way, and that smoothness is starting to make me suspicious
- When I disagree with someone I go straight for the rebuttal, and even when I’m right it makes them defensive and nothing changes
- I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
Practices that may help
- Establish a no-argument rule in feedforward exchanges
In structured feedforward exchanges, neither party evaluates or debates the suggestions — only listens and notes.
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Receive every suggestion with only "thank you"
Accept all feedforward without debate, justification, or even agreement — just acknowledge and note.
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Add the strongest objection to every major supporting reason
For each supporting reason, find the best counter and put it on the map.
Argument Mapping - Apply Dennett’s four rules for critical commentary
Before criticizing: restate charitably, list agreements, name what you’ve learned, then — and only then — rebut.
Steelmanning - Invite a response after delivering SBI
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Steel-man before you rebut
Restate the opposing view in its strongest form before you argue against it.
Productive Disagreement, Made Practical - Separate the argument from the arguer
Address the claim on its merits, not the person’s motives or character.
Productive Disagreement, Made Practical - Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Evaluate the argument structure, not the source
Map the logic and evaluate it independently of who made the argument.
Argument Mapping
Related concerns
- Dialogic Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
Invite a response after delivering SBI
- Follow The Argument
For each supporting reason, find the best counter and put it on the map.
Add the strongest objection to every major supporting reason
- How To Evaluate Arguments Fairly
Address the claim on its merits, not the person’s motives or character.
Separate the argument from the arguer
- Acknowledging Counter Arguments
For each supporting reason, find the best counter and put it on the map.
- Counterargument Generation
For each supporting reason, find the best counter and put it on the map.
- Deferred Evaluation Feedback
Replace "how did I do?" with "what ideas do you have for how I could do better?"
Ask for ideas about the future, not assessments of the past
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