Coaching practices for Non Dual Awareness with My Partner

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• I keep straining to "get into" a meditative state like awareness is something I have to switch on and aim
• I look at my partner and barely see them anymore
• In the most intimate moments with my partner my eyes close or slide away on their own
• My partner keeps saying I tune them out, but half the time I genuinely didn’t notice they were reaching for me
• I catch every single thing my partner forgets or does wrong, but the dozen kind, ordinary things they do for me each day just sail right past me unnoticed

Practices that may help

1. Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical
   Non-dual awareness is a mode of consciousness in which attention is no longer exclusively identified with the contents of experience (thoughts, sensations, feelings) but rests as the open, aware space in which those contents appear. Loch Kelly’s "effortless mindfulness" approach uses short recognition exercises to shift into this mode; research on the broader open-monitoring family of practices finds reductions in anxiety and rumination, though non-dual awareness itself is a newer research area with limited controlled trials.
2. Glimpse practice: a 10-second recognition of aware space
   Pause, drop the question "What am I aware of?" and simply notice that awareness is already on.
   Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical
3. The erotic gaze: seeing your partner freshly
   Deliberately practice seeing your partner as a stranger might — with curiosity, not familiarity.
   Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships
4. Eyes-open intimacy: contact without merger
   Practice making genuine eye contact during vulnerable or sexual moments as an act of self-disclosure rather than merger.
   Differentiation of Self: David Schnarch’s Framework for Passionate Marriage
5. Learn to recognize low-key bids
   Most bids for connection are indirect — train yourself to see them.
   Turning Toward: The Daily Practice That Builds Relationship Resilience
6. Actively notice positive partner behavior
   Scan for what your partner does right, not just what they don’t do.
   Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships
7. Practice openness through regular self-disclosure
   Share your thoughts, feelings, and daily experiences — not just problems.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
8. Share your own inner world to build the map reciprocally
   Let your partner map you -- disclose what is actually on your mind, not just the surface.
   Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World
9. Avoid passive responses
   Don’t let understated or distracted reactions quietly starve the moment of connection.
   Active-Constructive Responding, Made Practical
10. Shift identity from self-concept to awareness itself
    Experiment with "I am the aware space" rather than "I am my thoughts and feelings."
    Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical

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