Coaching practices for Non Resistance to Emotions

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I keep trying to shove this feeling down or talk myself out of it, and the harder I fight it the worse it gets
• When the thought "I’m a failure" hits, I don’t experience it as a thought
• The second a hard feeling shows up I clamp down on it and shove it away, but it just keeps coming back louder
• When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
• When something hurts I feel my whole body clamp down against it, like if I tense hard enough it won’t get in

Practices that may help

1. A — Allow the experience to be as it is
   Let what is present be here, without pushing it away, numbing it, or elaborating it.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
2. Step out — defuse from thoughts and feelings
   Create enough distance to see your emotions as data, not as commands or as you.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
3. RAIN — Allow the experience to be here
   Let the feeling exist as it is for a moment, without pushing it away or feeding it.
   Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
4. Mindfulness of the current emotion
   Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
5. Relax and release stuck energy
   When emotion grips, consciously relax and let the energy move through instead of clamping down.
   The Untethered Soul, In Practice
6. Mindful awareness of suffering
   Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
   Self-Compassion, Made Practical
7. Give yourself permission to feel
   Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
8. Recognize aware presence within strong emotion
   When a strong emotion arises, shift to noticing the awareness in which the emotion appears rather than being swept by it.
   Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical
9. Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
   Naming and honestly expressing what you feel — rather than suppressing, masking, or performing emotions — is linked to lower physiological stress, better relationships, and more effective self-regulation. Decades of research on expressive writing and emotional disclosure support the general principle, though effects are modest and depend heavily on how disclosure is done.
10. Opposite action
    When an emotion doesn’t fit the facts or is unhelpful, act opposite to its urge — fully and wholeheartedly.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical

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