Coaching practices for Let Emotions Be
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- When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
- I try to keep the emotion out and stay reasonable, but it never actually stays out
- I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"
- A feeling slams into me and I have no idea where it came from or why it’s this big
- When a big emotion hits, it becomes the whole world
Practices that may help
- Mindfulness of the current emotion
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Bring feelings into the conversation deliberately
Name the emotions instead of leaking them — unspoken feelings don’t leave, they distort.
Difficult Conversations, Made Practical - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Understand the function of the emotion
Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Recognize aware presence within strong emotion
When a strong emotion arises, shift to noticing the awareness in which the emotion appears rather than being swept by it.
Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical - O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments - RAIN — Allow the experience to be here
Let the feeling exist as it is for a moment, without pushing it away or feeding it.
Radical Acceptance, Made Practical - Red hat: name the emotions without justifying them
Give feelings a legitimate place in the discussion — the red hat makes emotional data explicit so it stops running covertly.
Six Thinking Hats, Made Practical - Walk your why — act from values, not from mood
Choose your response based on what matters to you, not on what the emotion is demanding.
Emotional Agility, Made Practical - Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
Naming and honestly expressing what you feel — rather than suppressing, masking, or performing emotions — is linked to lower physiological stress, better relationships, and more effective self-regulation. Decades of research on expressive writing and emotional disclosure support the general principle, though effects are modest and depend heavily on how disclosure is done.
Related concerns
- Permission To Feel Emotions
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Give yourself permission to feel
- How To Handle Your Emotions June Hunt
Naming and honestly expressing what you feel — rather than suppressing, masking, or performing emotions — is linked to lower physiological stress, better relationships, and more effective self-regulation. Decades of research on expressive writing and emotional disclosure support the general principle, though effects are modest and depend heavily on how disclosure is done.
- Stop Feeding Emotions
When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
Observe the emotion without feeding it
- How Deal With Your Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
Mindfulness of the current emotion
- How To Be More Mature Emotionally
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
- How To Deal With Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
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